A headline doing the rounds online says there’s nothing wrong with cheating, calling infidelity a natural response to the limits of monogamy.
We get the frustration with strict monogamy. It’s why a lot of you are here. But the line we draw is simple: consent.
Same desire, different outcome
- Cheating is secret and one-sided. It breaks an agreement.
- Hotwifing, cuckolding and FLR are talked about, agreed on and revisited.
The want underneath can be exactly the same. What changes is whether your partner gets a say.
If monogamy feels suffocating
Say so, to your partner. Start with a fantasy rather than a request, and keep it low-pressure. Our guide to bringing it up has scripts, and the are you ready to talk? quiz is a good gut check.
The bottom line
Wanting more isn’t wrong. Lying about it is what hurts.
