Most hotwife nights that go wrong go wrong because of something nobody thought to talk about. Go through this list together before the first date.
- What’s on the menu? Kissing, oral, sex, sleepovers. Be specific.
- Protection and testing. What’s required, and when do you test?
- Where? Your place, theirs, a hotel or only in public at first?
- Is he there? In the room, nearby, at home or not involved at all?
- How do you check in? A text at agreed times works for many couples.
- The safe word. For the night, and for the arrangement as a whole.
- Who’s off-limits? Friends, coworkers, exes.
- Photos and messages. Allowed, and if so, kept where?
- What happens after? Debrief that night, the next morning or not at all?
- When do you revisit this list? Put a date on it.
Print it, fill it in, and keep it somewhere you can both find it.
